It may seem strange, but one of the biggest relationships in my life currently is with my ex boyfriend! We dated for three years, one of those years he lived with my family, then the following year we moved into an apartment with friends. Our friend was in an unfortunate accident and passed away, and we were scrambling to find a new place. I think this is when he started to question our relationship and how people have an influence on each others life, and one of our influences was now gone. We broke up for 8 months, but lived together still, and it wreaked havoc on my life. I never questioned his intentions before, or has such mistrust, and none of it was warranted. We got back together for a few months, but ultimately broke it off and I moved out. Neither of us could be stressed any more. He moved states away because he had no where else to go, his family does not live close anymore. We talked a lot, and we visited too. Eight months later ( must be out magic number haha) he moved back to town. After 3 months, his living situation became strained and he ended up moving back in with me, separate rooms. Everyone says i'm stupid to let him be here, but it is the truth. I'm stupidly in love with someone who still has no idea what they want from me. He has shown me what love is, and what love isn't. I know what I want for my future, and I know it could work well with him in it. I am also realistic and see that he is not where I am in this thinking process, and that his thoughts my never match mine. It has now been close to 5 years of this back and fourth with him, and I don't regret any of it. Some of it, I feel should have gone differently but I don't think we would be at our current stage if anything changed. He has influenced my tastes on decor, my thoughts on vehicles, and he has supported me in job decisions in addition to being there to vent to. If he leaves my life again, he has had one big chunk of influence on me!
My parents are another strong relationship. Particularly, I feel that my mom has bonded with me as a support system since my dad has had major health problems over the past 10 years (see blog post HERE for more about that). My mom never had many friends that I can recall, so being here for her has been very important. She trusts in me to give her fashion advice (like "don't wear that if it's something grandma would wear"), she trusts in my visual abilities- She has been trying to buy a new house for a few years and always brings me with her to give 'dads opinion' and to visualize our stuff in the space. She also has me help decorate our home, we renovated the kitchen based on my ideas which I then used a picture of the kitchen and photoshoped it to help her see the big picture.
Another positive relationship is with my boss. She is supportive of my goal to further my career, makes sure that i'm in the right mindset when having an off day, and is training me to replace her one day. She has made a point to have weekly meetings with varying staff to make sure that our center is working properly and gives us an opportunity to talk to her about struggles or suggestions.
each of these three examples prove to not only be relationships but partnerships. Without my ex boyfriend, I would be alone in my apartment and would not have shared many experiences with him in the past, he has been a constant support (if not also a pain!). Without my parents, i would not have gown to be the woman I am today, which they rely on for sound opinion. Without my boss, I would not have the excitement and enjoyment of my workplace- I have worked at some truly awful places, and this is by far the best I've been involved in.
these contributors in my life has influenced how I look at the world, and how I respond to it. My ex makes me remember that not everyone sees the goal or intent the way I do, and forces me to see a different perspective. My family shows me the importance of good child rearing and how families can rely on each other as they grow. my boss reminds me that people can work together and support each other in the workplace without competition.
Another positive relationship is with my boss. She is supportive of my goal to further my career, makes sure that i'm in the right mindset when having an off day, and is training me to replace her one day. She has made a point to have weekly meetings with varying staff to make sure that our center is working properly and gives us an opportunity to talk to her about struggles or suggestions.
each of these three examples prove to not only be relationships but partnerships. Without my ex boyfriend, I would be alone in my apartment and would not have shared many experiences with him in the past, he has been a constant support (if not also a pain!). Without my parents, i would not have gown to be the woman I am today, which they rely on for sound opinion. Without my boss, I would not have the excitement and enjoyment of my workplace- I have worked at some truly awful places, and this is by far the best I've been involved in.
these contributors in my life has influenced how I look at the world, and how I respond to it. My ex makes me remember that not everyone sees the goal or intent the way I do, and forces me to see a different perspective. My family shows me the importance of good child rearing and how families can rely on each other as they grow. my boss reminds me that people can work together and support each other in the workplace without competition.
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